1. True forgiveness takes time.
There is no shortcut to forgiveness. In fact, I would caution against handing out pardons too quickly. They may be inauthentic.
In my case, I needed time to grieve. I sat (for what felt like eternity) with the uncomfortable emotions of denial, rage, and sadness. Once I had accepted that where I was now would be my new normal, I could begin the work that forgiveness demands.