While separation continues to be a major issue for order toddlers and their parents,2-to3-year old are struggling with another issue : They want desperately to hold on to the secure feeling of begin cared for by adoring parents and caregivers. At the same time, they have a strong need to assert their own will and make their own decisions. Their favorite word is “No,” and their favorite phrase is “I do it myself.” They are torn between their need to hold tight to a protective hand and their need to break away and explore the world in their own ways on their own terms.