Where does one draw the line in a dating relationship? When one does not want to appear as "needy" or as "smothering" and definitely not as "cold" or "distant?" Any insights anyone? I would offer that agape be our guide, and not the selfishness of eros. It's so easy to get lost in eros. Agape makes us strong and elevates eros to a level of peace and freedom. Prayer opens the door to agape. ~ Abel John Banda