I did not say that dumb ass. Read the comment. Soodie said she can tell he's been through a lot. I simply pointed out there is a difference. If people do drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. they bring misery upon themselves and destroy their own lives and the lives of those around them through bad and selfish decisions. That's not going through a lot, that's creating a lot of negativity in the world. Someone who has been through a lot is someone who has bad things happen that are out of their control. I have no idea which it is for this man. I do not know him.