There are times when even a white lie can hurt someone's feelings if they foung out, like the white lies you tell to get out of spending time with someone. There are times when white lies can be used to keep from hurting someone. Examples: giving someone a compliment. If the other person finds out and understands that the white lie came from a place of love they are more likely to overlook it and forgive you. Doing without them? Well there's certainly something to be said for honesty being the best policy. The problem with honesty is that, with some people who are very sensitive, how do you tell them the truth without hurting their feelings?