“Jobs could seduce and charm people at will, and he liked to do so. People such as (former Apple CEOs) Amelio and Sculley allowed themselves to believe that because Jobs was charming them, it meant that he liked and respected them. It was an impression that he sometimes fostered by dishing out insincere flattery to those hungry for it. But Jobs could be charming to people he hated just as easily as he could be insulting to people he liked.”
Jobs sounds to me like a sociopath and a narcissist. Dispensing insincere flattery to get what you need from people is manipulative. Any healthy individual will lose trust and respect for you once they realize you're doing this, no matter how much of a genius you might be.