Defeats aren’t a big deal unless you let them define you. Life is going to present to you a series of obstacles and challenges, and if you let them get the best of you you can be defeated by life. However, a good way to look at these obstacles and challenges is as opportunities. You don’t have to take it personally if you get defeated, because it’s just a temporary thing. You only let it become permanent in your own mind, and that’s when “life gets you”. It’s never life that has defeated you it’s always you defeating yourself.