MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE.
It may seem obvious, but it’s important for your friends to know they can count on you in a time of crisis. Whether it’s picking up cat food at the pet store or literally being a shoulder to cry on, it’s the little things that can go a long way. When your friend is grieving, the occasion calls for you to slow down a bit, especially if you are accustomed to a busy “let me pencil you in” kind of routine. Make a point to make your availability known, and demonstrate it by following up with invitations to spend time with your friend or bring her a meal. You don’t have to clear your schedule, but be aware that your time is worth its weight in gold to someone dealing with loss.