Finding the Right Person Some psychiatrists such as Thomas Lewis from the University of California, hypothesize that romantic love is rooted in experiences of physical closeness in childhood-for example, how we felt in our mother's arms. These feelings of comfort and affection are written on our brain and as adults our constant inclination is to find them again. According to this theory, we love whom we love not so much because of the future we hope to build, but rather because of the past we hope to live again. The person who feels right" has a certain look, smell, sound does n or touch that activates very deep memories. her ch Evolutionary psychologists explain, however childr that survival skills are inherent in our choice of a mate. According to this hypothesis, we Is It are attracted to people who look healthy-for Accor example, a woman with a 70 percent waist cause to-hip ratio is attractive because she can likely Mara bear children successfully. A man with rugged Pisa i features probably has a strong immune system and therefore is more likely to give his partner 80 loves and f healthy children. becau On the other hand, perhaps our choice of a betw mate is a simple matter of following our noses. disor Claus Wedekind of the University of Lausanne in Switzerland conducted an interesting Psyo experiment with sweaty? T-shirts. He asked 49 of m women to smell T-shirts previously worn by a Swe variety of unidentified men. He then asked the 65 women to rate which T-shirts smelled the best Bio and which the worst.