Happy families are members, related by blood or by choice, that freely give and receive love in healthy ways. Children and family members are acknowledged and rewarded for the good actions, thinking and behavior that they exhibit. Each family member that exhibits good actions is celebrated while they are alive. After their death, any good words or memories brought forward do the dead one no good. The focus, within the family, is on the positive actions of each member. This pattern is one that MUST and SHOULD be put into place the moment a child is brought into the world or into the family. Poor choices and bad behavior from family members ARE NOT TO BE IGNORED. However, they MUST BE dealt with in a loving, non-critical and corrective manner. It is IMPERATIVE, that all people realize that relationships are two sided. It's a give and take relationship when there are two or more people interacting. Without these patterns of behavior, you will create and endure much suffering. I KNOW THIS TO BE TRUE. I'm a survivor of an abusive family history. At least one hundred years of abuse and neglect within my blood family. I'm not only a survivor, I HAVE OVERCOME AND STOPPED THE ABUSE within my life and my actions. Still fighting to lead the rest of my family out of the suffering, abuse and neglect that they have created. I'll take any prayers I can get. They are blind, deaf and dumb to what they've created. Young relatives ending up in prison. One family member in critical care unit of hospital. Young children acting out and still suffering; unheard.