You may tend to be entirely too idealistic about love, setting standards for yourself and your lover that cannot realistically be fulfilled. Differentiate between what you can really achieve in a relationship and what can happen only in fantasy.
One way to channel this kind of energy is to express your fantasies through sex. This can be a source of considerable enjoyment, for you probably have a fertile imagination and can provide many enjoyable scenarios for you and your lover to play out.
If you take this direction, you will be able to create opportunities to act out situations that others only dream about, while still keeping a good grip on reality in your everyday interaction.