But the emotional conceptual changes accompanying the replacement of faith by evidence do not
have to be entirely negative, nor need they generate an existential crisis of deep despair. Hope is to
be sought not in eternal deliverance or divine oversight, but in the much more mundane and
realistically achievable pursuit of goals connected with love, work, and play. Secular lives do not
have to be empty or immoral, but can have the same primary pursuits as those of religious people,
who also have families, jobs, and entertainment. Moreover, people can avoid the tedium of church
services and the terrifying threat of eternal punishment. The fact that the universe doesn't care about
you should not be horribly distressing as long as there are people who do. If you can develop
confidence that moderately successful pursuit of love, work, and play will satisfy your vital needs for
relatedness, competence, and autonomy, then you shouldn't need the religious belief that God is
looking out for you or the spiritual belief that everything happens for a reason. Recognizing that minds
are brains is unavoidably a conceptual revolution, but it does not have to be a complete emotional
revolution, because the values that drive most of people's activities in everyday life can be retained.