jt67088 (40 minute ago)
Thank you, Por.
I know there are ways around my vasectomy but the truth is, I am 44 years old...almost 45. Even if I meet the right person, I don't want any more kids. I love mine more than my own life but when they are grown I am done raising kids. I don't want to start over again and be a father to young children in my 50's and into my 60's. Had I met the right person 6-7 years ago, I probably would have considered it. Now, I am ready to find the love of my life and, with her, enjoy my adult children and then eventually their children.
Yes, I agree about going through profiles, trying to know if they are real or not. It is tiring. As for that profile you showed me...you never know but he seems sincere. The fact that he has his children half of the time is a good sign (although I don't agree with splitting the children's time like that, but that's another story :::smiley-wink::. The only thing you can do is communicate and see if there's something there. I do suggest you use caution though, sweetie. Just because he seems good and maybe you get fast-beating heart and butterflies in your stomach, that doesn't mean you're in love. That's infatuation. It's the beginning but it's not love yet. Love takes time and effort and commitment and you just can't know that about someone else within one week. Not even one month. Not even three or four. When you meet someone and you get the fast beating-heart, the butterflies in the stomach, that's great and it's exciting and you feel like you're in heaven...but stay focused and make sure you truly get to know the person. I can tell you stories of people who think they've fallen in love only to realize too late it was just infatuation. They didn't take their time to really get to know the other person. OH, the other thing about that profile you showed me...another much older man, right? It absolutely can work but just make sure that's what you want. Follow your heart but use your brain to make good decisions.
Por, I do really and truly care for you and I want you to be so happy! You such an awesome person. That is why I tell you these things. I want to encourage you and I just want the best for you.
I hope I didn't ramble on too long for you. Good night and sweet dreams.