y dearest wife to be,
I appologise if my e-mails are long, but sometimes it is easier to try and explain things on an e-mail than on fb where you read quickly and try to answer quickly.
First, as always I will tell you that I love you. I hope you know this by now.
I will be happy to meet your parents. I hope they will not be disapointed with me, so do not build me up too much. I so feel you are out of my league with women !
I am hoping that we can start to finalise our plans soon for our 30 days together.
I am happy for you to plan an agenda for us, and happy to go to Nan, though I am unsure where we will stay as I do not want to upset your family.
I am not quite sure about some things though, and you may want to move things about a bit.
If you want to marry me - and I say IF - then you need to understand the law in marrying a farang and what laws and things foreigners have to do before they can marry. Some are a bit silly but still have to be completed.
I have to visit the UK embassy in Bangkok to sign an affadavit saying I am free to marry in thailand - which later has to be translated. There is paperwork for me to do to marry you. I ned to make sure I have divorce paper.
I do not know all the rules - but if you are serious about marrying me - properly - you need to know everything a farang needs.
I therefore urge you to talk to people about this before planning any travel. You would not want to get anywhere knowing you had to travel back to Pattaya or bangkok at a later date as something was missing.
People are there to help you. So talk if you can.
YOu then have the choice to marry me in Pattaya/Bangkok or wait until Nan. I am nervous about meeting your family - but I would feel bad about marrying you without them near you - maybe they would think bad of us. Maybe you think I am wrong.
I want you to be able to show them are happy in marrying me, giving you parents a hug and saying I am complete person now.
Am I wrong to think this ? I am not a bad man, and want your family happy with your decision.
But I would marry you anywhere, I hope know this.
And if Nan makes you happy, do it there. This may help.
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Now Pim, I know saying goodbye at the airport will be sad, but though it will be sad - you would be my wife. And as I have said I will never leave you.
In England, when a couple marries, they can make their own marriage vows when signing - we can do this if you want, saying why we marry to each other and why we love each other.
My aim is to come to be with you. If I could live permanently with you now, I would. Know this for the truth that it is.
But I want you to remember this Pim, you maybe have only to say goodbye to me on 2 or 3 maximum times before I come to live with you for always. We cannot get to the third goodbye and happiness for ever, without having the first goodbye.
Never fear I too will have a tear in my eye. Do you think it would be easy to leave you my wife ? You are lucky, you can go back and hug someone in your family - I have to travel 24 hours to get home !
Be happy being married, not sad at a departure.
In having a relationship with somone far away then there will be moments of sadness, but 30 days of happiness and 1 sad goodbye. That is better than 30 sad days and 1 happy goodbye !
Pim, I am coming to be the person that your life is missing. I will pick you up when you are down, I will mop your brow when you are ill, I will massage you back when you are in pain. I will the pillar in the support of your career, and I will hold you close when you cry after leaving yur daughter every visit. That is a good husband's job.
My job is to make your life happy - not sad.
Now, you joked about having a baby Pim. I want you to understand, you have a daughter and a career. I do not want to make you life bad in any way by you have another baby. If you are happy with just your daughter, that is OK with me Pim.
But, if you do want a baby, I will support you and be a home Dad for you to continue your work and career life.
The choice is yours Pim. I will love you either way.
Would I be sad if we never had a child ? Yes, but we have 3 lovely children already - no matter who we made them with.
So Pim, you decide, and I will support your decision.
You do not know how much you mean to me. You need to believe, you need to accept one man truly thinks you are the best thing in the world.
I will always love you Pim,
Please accept that as true.
Your hopeful husband,
Richard (husband, lover, father, carer, supporter)