Where social structure is “close”-that is, where the behavior of the people
conforms closely to the formal social patterns of human relations, as in Japanit
is difficult for an individual to deviate, and reciprocal rights and duties are
clearly marked and carried out. Under such conditions, a foreign bride may not
be approved, but once she becomes a member of the family, then the forms
at least will be observed. The mother would receive her even though it hurt
to do so. In Siamese society it is relatively easy to achieve a jait accompli by
doing something not approved by other members of the group. But in so doing
one does not necessarily achieve the acceptance of the others. The “accomplished
fact” does not accomplish much.