he “It’s not you, it’s me” routine got its bad reputation after it fell into the wrong hands and was eventually overworked and clichéd. In the beginning, it wasn’t so much of a line, but more of the person breaking up lacking communication skills. The person saying these words is taking responsibility for their inability to please you. They are letting you know that you are not the problem, and that they are. The puppy-eyed look that follows this line isn’t all for show. It hurts them to hurt you