Most people think that “marriage” is one of the most important moments of life which they would like to reach. When someone gets married with his/her lover, it is significantly seen that he/she can build another life-long mission, including the children, financial status and even relationship progress. Most couples may feel happy after marriage, but others not; they have to face many problems which can lead to the end of relationship, known as “divorce”. According to the research, most couples decide to divorce when thinking of the before-marriage time since they have some factors or reasons which are included as the drivers to divorce. There are many reasons from the before-marriage time which can lead the couples to divorce after being married.
Marriage for benefits can be a cause leading to divorce. Some lovers think of money or property rather than long-term relationship, including love and care. When someone falls in love with another one, he/she may not think of love in long run; in other words, he/she wishes to have higher money and property paid on hand behind this relationship. In this case, when someone knows that love is not the factor for marriage, divorce may be the ended option, which can break this relationship. Furthermore, some would like to get married to make more respectability on image. When he/she really knows that his/her lover has high social status, it is possible to have the grand wedding ceremony to make any people know well about the position and, after that, different social status of lovers can destroy the relationship since they know each other that some of them want to marry for such a higher position, not for long-term relationship.
Marriage for any necessity can be another cause making a divorce to the after-marriage relationship. Some couples have an arranged marriage, which they do not really know each other before but need to marry owing to their parents’ expectation or the contract made by two families. They can be caused by the requirements from the family to let their child marry with the one chosen by the parents, including the one who has the same social status or higher money. This case was sometimes found when someone had been dissuaded to marry with one who has a very high status on social, or in the monarch position. It seems inappropriate towards the marriage which can connect to the social status discrimination. Moreover, belief can be a driver to have the arranged marriage; parents believe that their child have to marry with one, whom he/she does not love much, to be safe from any dangers or they are credulous so that they must follow the any words from the fortune tellers, including the marriage. Problems can happen when a couple knows that they have to marry because of the words’ fortune teller. It is difficult to avoid this problem, so divorce is the choice selected to solve it and end this fake relationship.
For conclusion, marriage for benefits, expecting for money and property rather than long-term relationship, and marriage for the necessity can lead to divorce after being married. However, in order to maintain the marriage life, a couple should make sure each other than they concern of love as the main point, not money, property, social position, or even parents’ expectation. A couple is the main driver to strengthen the relationship after marriage. Love and care is the main vehicle to keep the destination of life on. Finally, it is necessarily possible to concern love, care, and long-term relationship and the main factors before being married together in order to avoid divorce in the future.