3.1.1. Blame from family members
Parents were stricken by the blame that came from
their relatives. Their parents, parents-in-law, and other
close family members blamed parents for causing the burn.
Mothers were blamed more when the burn event
happened at home. They described their heartache when
their parents blamed them for not considering the child a
priority:
Then aunt [mother-in-law] phoned to everyone. . .
Everyone came. My mom, my dad, my younger brother.
Mm. (with a teary voice) yes all of them came and all of
them were yelling at me, ‘‘Don’t you know how to look
after the child? Why do you have a child? Is the child
important or cooking is important?’’(Mother Family (F7)
Family members held the parents, especially the
mothers, responsible and accused them of being irresponsible
and the cause of the burn:
My sister-in-law and all had come to the hospital. ‘‘You
have destroyed the child. . . You have allowed the child
to go near the pump stove.’’ Like that every one scolded
me. (Mother F12)
Although the burn event was an accident in all families,
the blame forced mothers to defend themselves:
I was crying, like a mad woman I was crying, ‘‘I did not
do anything, I thought there was cold water only in that
[bucket]’’ like that, but everyone was scolding as they
liked, ‘‘you have done like this. . . after doing what she
did see how she is crying’’ like that and all they
[parents-in-law and sister-in-law] talked.
3.1.1. Blame from family membersParents were stricken by the blame that came fromtheir relatives. Their parents, parents-in-law, and otherclose family members blamed parents for causing the burn.Mothers were blamed more when the burn eventhappened at home. They described their heartache whentheir parents blamed them for not considering the child apriority:Then aunt [mother-in-law] phoned to everyone. . .Everyone came. My mom, my dad, my younger brother.Mm. (with a teary voice) yes all of them came and all ofthem were yelling at me, ‘‘Don’t you know how to lookafter the child? Why do you have a child? Is the childimportant or cooking is important?’’(Mother Family (F7)Family members held the parents, especially themothers, responsible and accused them of being irresponsibleand the cause of the burn:My sister-in-law and all had come to the hospital. ‘‘Youhave destroyed the child. . . You have allowed the childto go near the pump stove.’’ Like that every one scoldedme. (Mother F12)Although the burn event was an accident in all families,the blame forced mothers to defend themselves:I was crying, like a mad woman I was crying, ‘‘I did notdo anything, I thought there was cold water only in that[bucket]’’ like that, but everyone was scolding as theyliked, ‘‘you have done like this. . . after doing what shedid see how she is crying’’ like that and all they[parents-in-law and sister-in-law] talked.
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