No one can hold your hand through a process like this. You have to put in the work to pull out the reward. If you want change, if you want control, if you want a better life, you have to work for it. You have to reflect and learn through the process.
My advice for you today is to put in some work thinking about your life, your past and where you are going for your future. This reminds me of another quote by another thinker: