I don’t have the kind of time to devote to chitchat phone calls that she wishes I did. And that’s O.K. with me. I speak on the phone as much as necessary to successfully do my job — and otherwise as little as possible. I conduct my chitchat over Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. But by doing so, when I claim to be too busy to read or reply to my father’s group emails, return Lizzie’s calls or send a quick yes or no answer to my cousin’s logistical question, I’m asking for trouble.