Praise be to Allah, I have been practising the teachings of Islam for four years. Since I started to do that, my father and mother have been trying to get me to marry my paternal cousin who lives in the West; he does not have a beard and his knowledge of Islam is extremely limited, although he prays the five daily prayers. But I want a person who understands my enthusiasm for Islam and will be better than me in knowledge so that I can learn from him. But my parents are telling me that I could teach him.
My father also used to abuse me sexually from the time I was eleven years old, and I was terrified and very young, so I kept quiet. When I got older, I told my mother, but she is weak and is afraid that my father will leave her, so she believed him and not me.
Now my parents do not like me and they call me a “Wahhabi” because I am not a Shaafa‘i like them. They insult me all the time in front of other family members. Now, praise be to Allah, my younger brother and my sisters are religiously committed, but my parents are telling me to stop contaminating the minds of their children. It is difficult for me to obey them because they are asking too much of me and they are persisting in mistreating me and calling me names. I no longer have any relationship with my father who refuses to speak to me about anything apart from exchanging greetings, because he says that I have accused him of serious things and because I only asked him not to touch me in that way. He believes that he is in the right and he does not believe that he has ever done anything wrong, because he did that to all of my sisters, but they did not say anything although one of them ran away from home.
Now there is a brother who my brother thinks is suitable for me; he is religiously committed and has knowledge, but he is not from my country and my parents rejected him because they want me to marry my paternal cousin. I do not care about their rejection of this brother, but they are refusing to meet him and they say that the Prophet said that we should marry someone who is compatible to us, i.e., one of our family. I have tried to speak to them but they always insult me, and my mother cries and says that no one wants to listen to her and obey her. Is my refusal to marry my cousin regarded as disobedience towards them? I hope that you can advise me about how to deal with this situation, because I am very confused and am scared that Allah will punish me because my parents believe that I am not giving them their rights.
Was I wrong to tell my mother about what my father was doing to me? But I have young sisters in the house and I am scared that my father will abuse them too. This thing destroyed my relationship with him and I do not want it to happen to them; I want them to love my father and obey him. This is what I find difficult now because of what happened in the past. Is my father right when he says that he has the right to do whatever he wants with us, because he is our father and it is even permissible for him to have intercourse with us. He said that it is haraam for us to say no to our parents because Prophet Ibraaheem never said no to his parents. I want to obey my parents but they are making it extremely difficult. I hope that you can advise me, O shaykh.
สรรเสริญสามารถสู่อัลลอฮ ฉันมีการฝึกสอนอิสลามปีสี่ ตั้งแต่ผมเริ่มทำที่ พ่อและแม่ของฉันได้พยายามขอฉันแต่งงานกับลูกพี่ลูกน้องปู่ของฉันอาศัยอยู่ในตะวันตก เขาไม่มีเคราตัว และความรู้ของอิสลามถูกจำกัดมาก แม้ว่าเขาอธิษฐานสวดมนต์ทุกวันห้า แต่ฉันต้องการคนเข้าใจกระตือรือร้นสำหรับอิสลาม และจะดีกว่าในความรู้เพื่อให้ฉันสามารถเรียนรู้จากเขา แต่พ่อจะบอกฉันว่า ฉันสามารถสอนเขา พ่อยังใช้โจมตีฉันทางเพศจากเวลาผมอายุ 11 ปี และฉันก็คนกลัว และ อ่อนมาก ดังนั้นฉันเก็บเงียบ เมื่อผมเก่า ฉันบอกว่า แม่ของฉัน แต่เธออ่อนแอ และกลัวว่า พ่อจะปล่อยให้เธอ ให้เธอเชื่อเขาและฉันไม่ ตอนนี้พ่อไม่ชอบฉัน และพวกเขาเรียกฉันเป็น "วะฮาบีย์" เพราะฉันไม่ Shaafa'i เช่นนั้น พวกเขาดูถูกฉันตลอดเวลาหน้าสมาชิกในครอบครัว ตอนนี้ สรรเสริญสามารถสู่อัลลอฮ น้องชายของฉัน และน้องสาวของฉันมีความมุ่งมั่นเคร่งครัด แต่พ่อจะบอกให้หยุดจิตใจขยะ เป็นการยากที่จะเชื่อฟังพวกเขาเนื่องจากพวกเขาจะขอมากเกินไปของฉัน และพวกเขาจะ persisting mistreating ฉัน และเรียกชื่อฉัน ฉันไม่มีความสัมพันธ์ใด ๆ กับคุณพ่อที่จะพูดเกี่ยวกับอะไรนอกจากแลกเปลี่ยนคำทักทาย เพราะเขากล่าวว่า ฉันได้กล่าวหาว่าเขาสิ่งที่ร้ายแรง และเนื่อง จากเฉพาะถามเขาไม่สัมผัสฉันอย่างที่ฉัน เขาเชื่อว่า เขาอยู่ทางด้านขวา และเขาไม่เชื่อว่า เขาเคยทำอะไรผิด เพราะเขาไม่ว่าทั้งหมดของน้องสาวของฉัน แต่พวกเขาไม่ได้พูดอะไรแม้ว่าหนึ่งในพวกเขาหนีออกจากบ้าน Now there is a brother who my brother thinks is suitable for me; he is religiously committed and has knowledge, but he is not from my country and my parents rejected him because they want me to marry my paternal cousin. I do not care about their rejection of this brother, but they are refusing to meet him and they say that the Prophet said that we should marry someone who is compatible to us, i.e., one of our family. I have tried to speak to them but they always insult me, and my mother cries and says that no one wants to listen to her and obey her. Is my refusal to marry my cousin regarded as disobedience towards them? I hope that you can advise me about how to deal with this situation, because I am very confused and am scared that Allah will punish me because my parents believe that I am not giving them their rights. Was I wrong to tell my mother about what my father was doing to me? But I have young sisters in the house and I am scared that my father will abuse them too. This thing destroyed my relationship with him and I do not want it to happen to them; I want them to love my father and obey him. This is what I find difficult now because of what happened in the past. Is my father right when he says that he has the right to do whatever he wants with us, because he is our father and it is even permissible for him to have intercourse with us. He said that it is haraam for us to say no to our parents because Prophet Ibraaheem never said no to his parents. I want to obey my parents but they are making it extremely difficult. I hope that you can advise me, O shaykh.
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