the usual demands made by ...... parents' love are : compliance, cooperation, conformity, being like somebody , doing one's best always, being a success , working hard , causing no trouble ,glorifying the family name , making one's parent proud , etc. of course , when all the conditions are added up they are just to much. under conditions like these one can only fail ..... after all , failure means that you didn't pay then ecessary price of admission to love . this, of course , leads to self-hatred whether admitted or not. and this self-hatred is the beginning of a sad and self-destructive life.