You may find American parents to be too cautious or too casual, too attentive or not attentive enough, too strict or not strict enough. The truth is, they will probably be all of these things. They are parents, they are learning all the time, as you are. As their au pair, try to be as agreeable as possible. Keep in mind that you can always communicate your questions, concerns and misunderstandings. Your host parents will appreciate your questions. As their au pair, we hope that you can learn to appreciate and understand and actively participate in raising “your” American children.