He has to be self-confident, noble, strong, and courageous. My boyfriend has to be able to defend himself not necessarily physically but verbally and mentally. He has to be able to protect and secure his family. If a man can’t be protective to his family (If a man can’t protect or defend his family)then I know he will not be protective to me. A man shall not have to be motivated he shall be self-motivated. I do not want my boyfriend to show shame. Therefore, self-confidence is the key.