Nine months ago I started talking to this girl. I had previously been in a bad relationship and spent 2 months just occasionally talking before even asking her on a date. After we went on a few dates and made out frequently, she told me that she really really liked me yet couldn't be in a relationship with me and wanted to keep things exactly where they were. Fearing I was being played, I just told her that I didn't want anything with her at all anymore(it killed me to say that because I felt something with her I hadn't felt with anyone before). Another month passes and we rarely talked; however, then we started talking more as just friends which I was perfectly fine with because she was really fun to hang out with. We got to be really close friends over the next three months. Then one night we were alone and she tried to kiss me. I told her that I wasn't going to kiss her unless she was ready and she lunged herself at me and we took it a lot further than making out that night. She also opened up to me and told me about her past relationships and why she had been afraid before but she was going to try and get over it. Things had been going well until about a week ago when she said she was afraid that I would want a relationship(Well duh! I had told her that many times) and she thought it wouldn't work out if we were in a relationship(even though we are pretty much in a relationship, she just won't call it that). However, then she confused me by saying that she actually wants a relationship really bad with me, but I have to prove to her that she doesn't need to be afraid. I said I would try, and then she told me she loves me. That was yesterday and today she's back to being afraid.