Pay attention.
Real attention. The kind that can only happen when you unleash the death grip on your smartphone. Your spouse is changing every day. One groom, who’d been with his fiancée for five years, was amazed — and excited — to continually discover new aspects of her personality. “I’ll probably keep learning about her for the rest of my life,” he said. And as Zen teacher John Tarrant put it, “Attention is the most basic form of love.