Violence in its very essence is a manifestation of the destructive desire to control and have power over another human being. According to Bancroft there nine types of abusive men which can use different styles starting with a strictly verbal abuser and ending with a physical batterer (Bancroft, 2003). Male violence against women is a desire to feel complete control over a human being that for ages has been seen as a “weak gender”. Therefore violence becomes the way of proving that a man or a boy really belongs to a male gender and therefore women have to “knuckle under” him. In other words male violence against women is a characteristic of men, who were abused or neglected in their childhood (Bancroft, 2003).
According to the information not known at wide public but collected by the Federal bureau of investigation – out of all the domestic violence acts – 95 percent are violent behavior manifestations against women. So this is all basically about the gender violence and primarily violence over women committed by men. The men who were abused in their childhood or were victims of family and school neglect most commonly commit violent criminal behavior. If a little boy is constantly exposed to his father beating his mother he is a potential abuser for every woman in his life (Widom & Maxfield, 2001). The situation becomes even worse if a little boy is abused himself, too. The main problem concerning children and boys that are being abused is that cannot learn what is empathy for other people and for the pain they are experiencing. They treat other people the same as they were treated themselves. So, if a child that is abused or watches his family members or neighbors abuse their relatives get not proper attention at school the boy easily converts into a criminal and his life will be broken because of his broken child’s heart. Violence against women – is not the fault of men but their misfortune. The true reason is that men used to be boys and these little boys did not have anybody to love and understand them neither at home nor at school. They did not have anybody to teach him or her how to control their anger, for anger is the major feeling such “abusive” children experience. They are angry with the people who are so indifferent to them and they become sure nobody is honestly able to understand them and become and violent (Bancroft, 2003).