I don't understand why you guys did not share money and help each other. There is no such thing as a or my personal account when a couple have a baby and are together. That is probably what the problem is/was. The money has to be shared but you have to trust each other and come up with an agreement/rules. This happens to many couples and they don't understand that once you get involved with someone everything you have becomes theirs as well (both ways)- this point is hard for a lot of people and was for me too. People have to change the style and give money to other one and that is really hard but no choice - sometimes you have to close your eyes with this but there has to be some limits/rules.