in a survey of 1000 parent and 500 children,43 percent of the grown-ups said they wanted to be their children's "best friend " 40 percent said they wanted to buy their children everything they wanted. peggy a parent with a 15 year old teenager,said, " my childhood was difficult. we didn't have and money. i want to give my son everything he asks for. " fred,a single dad,said," adulthiod is all about responsibility. adolescence is all about having fun. i don't want my children to work too hard." Dr. julio garcia,a childcare specialist,says, "children need an adult to rely on . they need rules-and a best friend isn't going to give you rules." interestingly, the young adults in the survey didn't share their parents' values. when they are ready to start a family,only 28petcent of them want to be their children's best friend. when they are ready to start a family,only 28 percent of them want to be their children's best friend. only 10 percent want to buy their kids everything.