Concerning your question about joining my wife or make her come here...It depends on the circumstances and how things go. You might not like it here and I may not like it there...You know the feeling of homesickness , everything is different (language, customs,people...Parents can have an opinion about it too.
I know I am an open minded guy and I can adapt to any culture and can get along with anyone coz I am not judgemental and people for me are the same...I have respect for everybody and every culture....I just never experienced that before.