So we became a live research laboratory in which we were both the "mice" and the "lab coats" exploring why we and others have so much difficulty talking honestly with each other. This was virtually a 24/7 commitment for 20 years. There was no intention to become a cooperative or solidarity institution of any kind. However, during those years and the following ten an intentional community of multi-leveled membership did evolve around us, which we, along with some others, have managed and sustained.