TF: What happens in a sangha community if the majority of people have an avoidant
attachment style of relating?
JW: Avoidant types tend to be dismissive of other people’s needs because, guess
what, they’re dismissive of their own needs.
TF: Then what happens?
JW: What happens is that people feel justified in not respecting each other’s
feelings and needs. Not surprisingly, “need” becomes a dirty word in many
spiritual communities.