An apology is a powerful means of reconciliation and restoring trust.
Sometimes even a well-intentioned apology can exacerbate a conflict.
Some useful statements:
A common understanding of the exact substance and nature of the offense, or perceived offense. (Example: “Yesterday on the telephone, I said….”)
Recognition of responsibility or accountability on the part of the one who offended. (Example: “I could have chosen other words.” “I spoke without thinking.”)
Acknowledgement of the pain or embarrassment that the offended party experienced. (Example: “It’s understandable that was upsetting to you.” “If someone had said that to me, I would not have liked it, either.” But not, “I’m sorry you’re so easily hurt.”)
A judgment about the offense. (Example: “I was insensitive.” “What I did was wrong.”)