Pim,
You said not to tak about this again, but :
I want you understand 2 things Pim.
1. Yes, I was angry with you for lying to me - you know my past and everyone that has lied to me before. I am honest about teling you this, as I wanted you never to lie to me. I trusted you not to do this. But you did and it hurt. You tell me you lied to not hurt my feelings - I understand - - but it is better to hurt my feelings than lie to me Pim. The past is over - we have each other now - but that does not mean lying about it.
2. The reason I threw them at you is because I was angry. It was wrong - just like you lying. BUT, I want you to understand that doing this hurt me so much. I had finally married the woman I had searched for all my life - only to have her lie to me. Do you think I was not upset ? Yes, I even packed my bag to leave - but I did not go Pim. I wanted to show you how much it hurt me, so you would never do it again to me. Hurt me Pim - do not lie to me.
I am never going to leave you Pim. If I was I would have left already. I stayed because you are my wife. I stayed to show you I would stay even when I was really hurt I would not leave. Seeing you cry was upsetting to me too.
I do not want it to happen again. You have told me you will never lie to me again - and I accept this. And I have promised that I will never leave you. I certianly will never hit you.
Now just forget the incident. It has taught us a very important lesson - that we both get upset at certain things - and that we try to be more thoughtful in the future. OK ? A hug is what we wil do in future.
There is another reason why we had the issue - and that is that I was about to go back to the UK. Both of us uncertain about the future. But we are now working on that and so there will be no problems in the future.
Aways your husband,