Parents who nag or criticize
Parents who nag or criticize can make you frustrated or angry. Sometimes parents have a hard time realizing that you are growing up and becoming more independent.
It can help to keep your parents on your side by showing love, appreciation and interest in them and being as pleasant to them as you want them to be to you. Parents want to know you’re listening.
Show that you listen and understand their criticism by repeating what they say in a respectful way. Get them to talk about what they did as teenagers – this may remind them of what you’re going through.
Sometimes parents criticize you too much or even put you down. Try talking to your parents or writing them a letter about how you feel. If that doesn’t work, talk to an adult you trust about it.
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Parents who are overprotective
Parents who are overprotective usually make rules because they love you and don't want you to get hurt. Keep them up on the important things going on in your life and introduce them to your friends.
Show them that you understand their fears. For example, “I understand you think it’s not safe for me to go out late on Saturday night but I promise to tell you where I’m going and who I’m going with."
If you can’t talk to them without getting upset, write a letter. Let them know you are thinking about how they feel, and then spell out your own point of view.