know that you are suffering, that is why I am here for you." Even before you actually do something to help, the person you love is relieved Your presence is a miracle your understanding of his or her pain is a miracle, and you are able to offer this aspect of your love immediately The fourth mantra is more difficult to practice. It has to do with a situation in which you are suffering yourself and you think that your suffering has been created by the person you love most in the world If it had been someone else who had said that to you or done that to you, without a doubt you would be suffering less. But in this case, it is the person I love most in the world who said that to me, who did that to me, and I am suffering more. I am deeply hurt by the fact that my suffering was caused by the person I love the most. i feel like going to my room, closing the door