He appreciates independence. A true cat lover doesn’t mind that his cat spends half the day napping, and the rest of the time it won’t come when it’s called. In fact, he’s grateful for the ten minutes when his cat deigns to be near him. This means he’ll be unconditionally pleased to see you when you get back in the evening after a drunken lunch with the girls, and he’ll be happy for you to have a time consuming hobby. (Mine is horses.) Cats make men try harder. You can reap the benefits.