Tina’s mother specifically told her that she had to make all her own
decisions, including career decisions, by herself after the age of 18. She
tried to prepare Tina for independent decision making by encouraging
her to solve problems in her own way. Tina’s father conveyed to her that
he and her mother would respect her choice after she graduated from
a university. Xiaoming’s mother conveyed to her son the idea of doing
what he wanted to do: “I did not force him to do things. Since we do
not force him to achieve certain [parents’] goals, he will be educated
and develop such an idea gradually in a natural way.”