I am a single parent. This adds some extra pllressure, but it also makes thing less complicated in some ways. There is no negotiating with a partner about what is best for James, but on the other hand, James has only one parental role model and influence. It also mean that when I am tired, there is no other adult to take over for me. Therefore, at times, James has to deal with me when what I really need is some apace.