The loyalty to the family's social status, beliefs and acceptable behavior is so strong that success beyond their "place in society" is not possible. When one ventures beyond, to a different level of success, feelings of disloyalty and guilt often prevent enjoyment. More than a few of my clients, after achieving success, felt they had very little in common with their roots. Some reveled in the gains and were emotionally independent enough to push on, letting the process of adjustment with their families and friends take place. Others sabotaged their gains to feel once again "at home" because they could not handle the inner conflict their success had caused with family and friends.