Understand my needs.
List your mental, emotional and spiritual needs. Being surrounded by loving and caring people may be one emotional need. Wanting independence and freedom from the control of others may be another need. Feeling connected to a spiritual or religious organization may be yet another need.
Pinpoint your physical and material needs. Being healthy and fit is one example. Living in an environment that is free of pollution may be another need. Living debt-free or accumulating wealth may be material needs.