My MN accent is so strong I can't even read" : my memories of childhood moments like these are so strong I have to remember to breathe (even though any inspiration to remember died long long ago). How is it that scratching a gay person's surface inevitably brings up such poignant (damaging) pasts and the damages of unthinking parents. We really want to know you more Mr Wylie (and Mr Ringhand too) when you talk to us (now and then) the echoes within our own hearts of the memories you find, the processings you undertake ring bells of forgotten knowings we let slip from our hands into our own recessed deepening pools of ache. Helping us all is what you are doing by helping yourself to remember, writing songs and poems and visual diaries and the smiles and angles of the camera and your cheekbones and eyes and finger tattoos radiate the oh so healthy words and wisdoms of our shared engagement with life and love and loss: all for those photographs and captured memories in words. A long thank you and a slight formal bow to you (and your sister) for memories of creations and words and the long dark path within all of us.