Buddhism and Shinto are the two major spiritual traditions of Japan. Shinto is the indigenous faith of Japan and is as old as Japan itself. Japanese tend to rely upon Buddhist traditions. Approximately 90% of Japanese funerals are conducted in the Buddhist tradition.
Many Japanese families have Buddhist altars (“butsudan”) and Shinto shrines (“kamidana”) within the household. When death occurs, a small table decorated with flowers, incense, and a candle is placed beside the deathbed. The household shrine is closed and covered with white paper in order to keep impure spirits at bay. Relatives are informed. Immediately thereafter, authorities are informed, and a death certificate is issued. Traditionally, funeral arrangements are made by the eldest son, who contacts the Buddhist temple to schedule a date for the funeral.
a deceased female is dressed in a white kimono, and a deceased male is dressed in a kimono or suit.
No food is served after Japanese wakes or funerals, so mourners should eat prior to attending those ceremonies.
WHAT TO WEAR:
For men: a black suit, white shirt, and black necktie. For women: a non-revealing black dress (should fall below the knees) or suit is standard.
WHAT TO BRING:
The money, called “koden,” is to be enclosed in special, commercially available, white funeral envelopes which are decorated with black and white ribbons. The amount given, typically between 3,000 and 30,000 yen (about $25 to $250), depending on the relationship to the deceased, the social status
the Buddhist priest then chants sutra in a characteristically low tone, his back towards the mourners.
Generally the gifts from the family are wrapped in white, gray, or black paper and are presented in small shopping bags. Gifts such as handkerchiefs and hand towels are typical.
At the end of the funeral, friends and family members place flowers into the casket, around the head and shoulders of the deceased. The coffin is then nailed shut, signaling the end of Earthly existence, and carried to an elaborately decorated hearse, which transports the deceased to the crematorium.