that is to find someone i will love and take back with me to be like husband and wife together. for this to work ok then we have to meet like each other trust each other and since i have not got much time we must live together here for some time. and collect proof of that. this is necessary to prove a genuine relationship to them it doesnot matter if we are married or not. so when I apply for a new zealand visa for my partner at the new Zealand embasy they will grant it for me. this should be at least a month living together i think and during tat time we can find out if we are right for each other. with my limited time the courtship should be rather quick and with the costlyness of all this and airline tickets i will not be able to be paying parants a big sin sod. but the lucky bride will be guaranteed regular money in new zealand to do with as she wishes. i am saying this because i want you to know the reality of the situation and what has to be done.