When you’re the younger child in the family, you have to listen to not only to what your parents say but your older siblings as well. Sometimes this can feel like you’re being bossed around. This feeling causes resentment, complaints, and remonstrance. But what if there is another way to look at this situation?
There are a lot of things your older sister had to deal with but never told you about. We at Bright Side would like to reveal some of these secrets and give you an opportunity to look at a different side of your sister to better understand the reasons for her behavior.
1. She was brought up under stricter rules
She was the first child, and she was the only child for a long period of time. Your mom and dad were only starting to learn how to be parents. They didn’t really know what they were doing. There is always a fear of making mistakes in these cases; therefore, they set very strict rules for her. When they had you, they had already learned about parenting and were more flexible.
2. Your parents often remind her that she is the older one
An older sister has to be smart, even though she wants to act up. She has to give in even though she doesn’t want to. Parents always say these things, but she understands it. Therefore, she knows she has to be the responsible one.
She learned how to be responsible for the little munchkin (you). She tried not to make much noise so the baby wouldn’t wake up. Then, she became responsible for the naughty girl who had to be taken to kindergarten. She was responsible for the spry schoolgirl who needed a huge amount of time to get ready for school. She was also responsible for the third grader who didn’t want to do homework, and for the seventh grader who skipped school from time to time. There were so many different responsibilities.