QUESTION: why we fell in love
with a person so deep that we
can die for him or her and if he or
she ditch us we fell so broken
why is it so that we love someone
and he or she ditch us??? i'll w8
for ur answer acctually itz not my
question itz my friend's question
he is my class fellow
OUR REPLY: People fall in love
deeply due to two things: A desire
to reach a fictional fantasy; or to
fill a void in their life from a
personal experience.
The fantasy part is due to the
romantic hollywood movies that
people get so caught up in,
thinking that life can be like a
movie. That is a false reality. And
when someone is feeling like
crying, or dying, they are looking
for attention. And sometimes
those actions are pushed too far
and people end up taking their
life. Which is truly sad.
The "Filling The Void" part has to
due to what you expected family
life to be growing up. The more
you are restricted to do
something, the more desire you
have to hope for a better life. So
when a girl meets someone, she
puts all her hopes in one basket,
instead of just enjoying a casual
moment of fun. Its life and death.
Living life this way is called "Too
Extreme".
The solution is to take a deep
breathe and relax your thought
process and write down what
your expectations are from your
partner? And then take that same
list and make a opposite copy of
it. For ex: if you wrote, "You want
to live happily ever after!" The
opposite would be, "He breaks
your heart!" Through this process
you need to write down the
answers to how you would react
to each opposite scenario. Only
then you will start to discover and
fix your expectations from people.
Remember everyone grows at
different speeds. And want
different things at different times
in their lives. Good luck.