Hi Som, I am very happy to send you my first Email since I've been back. But I am very sad. When your Aunt told me how much your father wanted to marry you, it took my breath away, my heart stopped. I thought that all I would need is our love for each other face to face. I know in Thai culture it is customary to give money to the family that's okay, I understand that. But I don't understand why father want so much. If you were my daughter I would only ask what I think my daughters husband could pay. Your father said I could borrow money from friends or business, but it's not a good way to start a marriage together in debt to others. I know you love your family but I think wrong for them to ask so much from me for you. It means the plans we have together to marry, February or April we can't do. It means our love has to be put on hold for what they want, I think that's not fair. I asked your Aunt to ask your father to let me marry now and pay some now and then pay the rest every month until one year is finished. But your father said no, have to pay all the money first and gold. Even I work as hard as can be it will take at least six or seven months or more. I think this is wrong. I believe that love is from the heart not the bank. I try to reason with your father but he doesn't care about the love, only the money. You know I love you so much. But how will our love be six or seven months from now when so much work and so much time has passed. I know that as a father I would only want the true happiness for my daughter not myself. I know that my whole family will have to work hard and suffer a lot to raise this money for your father. For six years I searched for a wife the world, each time giving money to the family but never getting a wife. I only worry that once again I will give all my family's money and all their hard work all for the sake to make another father happy. I thought your family wanted a son in law forever not just one payment. I thought we would care for your family forever. You know I love you my wife, and I would give the world for you. I only ask that you think about these things and think what is wrong and what is right and what is in our hearts. I think it's wrong to make our love wait only to pay more. I am sad to say all these words but I only want you to think about it and think what is right or wrong. I love you so much Som, dreaming of you , Timmy.