It did not matter to her father that Max was kind . What mattered to her father was what a man said and what he did . Her father thought the most important thing for a man was to be patient , to be quiet , to say nothing , to be brave , to be able to feet pain without talking about it. It was not surprising that he did not like Max. Max was loud, he was noisy , he did not think before he spoke, he was impatient - he was everything her father hated in a man.