Zai, your never going to be perfect. However, trust an experienced man with great experience. Zai, your not "normal". I could meet 100 young women this week & none of them will be as unique as Zai. You are one of a kind. Divide everything about yourself into 3 lists. 1) What is the BEST about Zai TODAY?
2) What needs tweaking & tinkering and adjustments about Zai THIS WEEK?
3) If I am to be 100% honest with myself, what 1 or 2 things are obviously worst & obviously not right for Zai? How does Zai react to that truth so that very soon, hopefully within one month the current "worst" will be fixed or totally gone?