This love needs a lot of give and take for it to thrive and satisfy both of you. Being too loud or overbearing will hurt feelings, but it's important to speak up and say and do what is romantically true for you, too. Being honest is crucial, but it needs to be done with tact and consideration. Thinking about yourself first won't help; neither will neglecting yourself and thinking first of your partner. Treat this relationship from the start as a mutually shared interest in each other. If it's not so in the beginning, you could make it become that, if you choose.